Module 4
See what Jamie had to say about doing an experiment:
“I was worried about doing the experiment, but it really helped me to find out that my predictions were not right.”
Jamie learned that connecting with others is an important part of improving wellbeing.
Often people worry what others will think of them if they share their feelings around the loss. It can be helpful to reflect that many people have experienced loss and can empathise.
Tip: It can be difficult talking to others about loss.
Some people are better than others at talking about loss.
Often people don’t know what to say, might offer you advice, relate it to their own loss, or problem solve to try and make you feel better.
It can be helpful to let your friend know at the start of an experiment you would like to talk to them about something difficult, but just need them to listen rather than offering advice or trying to make you feel better.
If you do find others change the topic, or are not as supportive as you would like, think about how their response is not about you as a person, rather it’s about their discomfort with the subject of loss.
Keep trying experiments even if it doesn’t go quite as you might have planned.
Experiments are a great way to test out our thoughts.
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